Survey Says!
In an open survey directed towards women I asked the question: If you were given the opportunity to contribute advice and/or words of encouragement to a women’s empowerment guide after divorce what would it be, and the responses were powerful and inspiring.
Divorce can leave us feeling lost, confused, and overwhelmed. That’s why I want to create a space here or women to share their experiences and insights to help those who are now going through the same struggle. Here I will share some responses and hope these words will find you when you need them the most;
Don’t be too hard on yourself as you heal and figure it out. Spend time outside your comfort zone, and under the covers. Learn to know what you need in the moment.
How to find your “yes’ and no’s”
Your kids will be ok —> I teared up on this one, this is one thing I still struggle with is the guilt
Make sure your insurance is in order and don’t wait to get things done —> reach out if you need support here.
Be selfish and wise with your money. Think of your future not giving it all to your kids
You will make it through, I know it seems like there is no end in sight, struggling to find the light but when you keep going and don’t give up the light will eventually come. Find your supports, find a therapist and be kind to yourself. Take time off if you need, there’s no shame to put yourself first here
Know your non negotiables with yourself and others
Budget, income, how to transfer assets and how to have a good relationship with your ex
If possible, know what you want and your spouse wants from the divorce and come to an agreement outside the law office! In my experience, once lawyers were involved I was f*cked, not saying this would happen for you, but 30k in lawyer debt was my story, and there is so much regret and trauma about this process. #1 - utilize divorce mediation services or collaborative law if viable #2 work with a divorce coach to get to the agreement prior to lawyers office #3 use CFDA (Certified Divorce Financial Analyst) specifically trained in divorce
I offer many different programs and coaching packages to help you through this stage that can be tailored to your specific needs. Along with my professional designations and experience I also have the personal experience of divorce with two young children at the time. Book a call under the “contact” page and let’s tackle this together!