You Are Enough

I do things differently. I'm not in a box, and I'm not for everyone. I like to talk about behaviours, psychology, emotions, trauma, spirituality and how our beliefs are built, along with teaching my skill set when it comes to finances. I tend to talk about things that are considered "taboo" and most may shy away from on a public platform. I like the idea of putting all this together and pushing the limits and the narratives we live by.  

Our financial world needs a change, one that is more open, accepting and compassionate of one's situation. One that educates instead of sells, one that puts client relationship, trust and integrity at the top. We need more compassionate, judgement free zones where we have permission to take off our masks we hide behind.

I support women; single working moms, corporate mom's, divorcee's, widows and provide financial empowerment education. As a Single Divorced Working Mother (and yes, that deserves a title with all the capitals!) I know you well. I know the challenges of being a single mom, I know the emotional and financial toll divorce takes, I know the shame and guilt that comes with being a single mom, while navagating the pressure of wanting to provide the life we always dreamed of for children. These emotions run deep, and in finance we need to be going deeper. We need to be changing how we look, feel and manage money in order to make any lasting change.

Did you know that we all have a unique money story, just as we each have our own unique personal journey?

The way we were raised, the narrative we were taught, the discussions or arguments witnessed in childhood all carry forward to adulthood in ways you may not even be aware of.

In my discussions with many single working moms, their biggest worry was not giving or providing enough for her children. One Mom in particular was the amount of downsizing she had to do after her divorce.

She went from a large grand home, to a 2 bedroom apartment with 2 kids and she held so much guilt and shame for this, she continued to beat up on herself as she didn't feel like she was enough of a mom because of this, and if she could just get back what she had, it would be different.

This story also hits close to home, it was interesting as she spoke these words, she was describing my life 10 years ago freshly out of a marriage, walking away from everything I had owned including my house and into a 2 bedroom condo with 2 children on the "bad side of town".  I felt her words deeply, knowing exactly the shame, sadness and pain she was feeling.  As I probed her for the root of the pain, I asked what her childhood conditions were like, there, in that moment the lightbulb turned on. "Oh my goodness, we lived in low income housing," she said. "I was always so embarrassed, I always told myself that I would do better with my life. I never wanted people to see where I lived, I would be asked to be dropped off blocks away from my house."

These experiences shape who we are. Much like her as a kid I was raised by a single mom who worked three jobs, I told myself at a young age I would never let my kids know what never having enough felt like.  And, in my darkest days, during my divorce while navigating being a single Mom, I shared the same feelings she was experiencing. When my 5 year old definition, my reality, my feeling of "didn't have enough" was now true.  

But, what if at that time I knew more, what if I knew to question my beliefs? What if I knew this was a belief I currated from when I was a little girl experiencing lack, and it no longer has to be true? Can we challenge that thought and do the work to install a new belief?

This is why I’m here, to teach and bring awareness. AND, this is where YOUR work is if you find yourself resonating!

If you don't start to ask questions around why you operate and think the way you do, you will forever be living in your conditioned state of being.  Our emotions run our money, our money story can get in the way of true wealth and happiness. Financial management and wealth creation are a piece of the puzzle. In order to live a truly fulfilled WEALTHY life we need to dig deeper into our stories, and investigate with no longer holds value, and then, how can we transform it into something that does provide value?